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Sunday, March 13, 2016

Spring Break

For the past two weeks I have been on Spring Break from college. My friends I have been very far from a beach in Ft. Lauderdale.

I’ve used the time off to catch up on spring cleaning. Each day was dedicated to deep cleaning one room top to bottom. Excess clutter was bagged up and placed in the garage in preparation for a neighborhood wide garage sale set for next Saturday.

I also set out to tackle a long list of apron orders I had promised to fulfill since back before Christmas. Last weekend I approached the task like a leader of a covert military operation. The first order of business was that I was going to need assistance from some recruits to stay on top of the mundane, time gulping, daily tasks. Mr. Decor was placed in charge of food prep, cooking, and clean up. Sweet Guy needed to stay on top of the laundry, empty the trash and dishwasher. If my calculations were correct (and they were) this would buy me an extra 3 hours a day.

Saturday went well. On Sunday, I gently reminded Sweet Guy of his three tasks: laundry, dishwasher and trash. His response was “But I did all that yesterday.” To which I replied “Yes son, and you did a great job. But I normally do those things every day.” “Everyday!!! Man your life sucks!” he exclaimed. I could have said, “Yes, yes it does.” But instead I made it a teachable moment. I gently asked him if by doing those things did it make his life better. “Yeah, I appreciate clean clothes and stuff.” I let him know that because I loved him I did those things willingly because I knew it would improve the quality of his life even if it added on more work to mine. Then I asked, “In thinking about this concept is there anything you could do to make my life better?” “Well, sometimes I could do those things for you to give you a break and for sure I could be a lot more grateful.” “Yeah, I’d really like that. I told him. That wouldn’t suck at all.”

Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings. ~William A Ward:

“I do not cease to give thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers.” ~ Ephesians 1:16

Laura

13 comments :

Sandi said...

Your blog just doesn't have a typical "spring break from college" feel. :-) You must be a professor?

I actually love spring cleaning. But I do it all the time. Otherwise, things multiply and, before I know it, I can't even turn around. Simplify, simplify!

Mountain Mama said...

Ha ha I love that little dialogue you had with your son - too funny! They really have no clue all we do, do they? Boy would I love two weeks to be around home for a spring cleaning - that sounds way better than a beach to me right now!

Simply LKJ said...

Love the "teachable" moment. There were times when mine were home and younger that I threatened to not do a thing for a week, just to prove a point! They really don't have any idea how much their mommas truly do for them until they are on their own and have to do it for themselves.
Have a blessed Sunday!

Angela Boone said...

I love how you used the convo with your son as a teachable moment. You could have just gotten mad but you chose to start a dialog with him about how you give up your time for him out of love.

Stacey said...

Those mother and son conversations are priceless. Why is it that guys (including husbands) don't see messes? My guys will do anything I ask them to do but they definitely don't see it on their own. :)

Manu said...

Oh I read this post and I think we are all in the same boat...
Thanks for sharing.
Happy Sunday

Bonnie said...

Great example and it worked. It will pay off for you and for him.

Elizabeth@ Pine Cones and Acorns said...

Love this post! Have a wonderful day!

Elizabeth Eiffel said...

I never cease to be amazed by your energy, patience and creativity. I'm not sure that I could have been as calm as you if I got a similar response from my child. I never explode verbally, but internally my blood pressure would have raised substantially. I love your quote. Best wishes dear Laura.

Julie's Lifestyle said...

I too loved this post and the life lesson you taught your son!
Wishing you a wonderful week.
Hugs, Julie

Jemma@athomewithjemma said...

Very interesting, you know I have 3 daughters and 1 son.
The relationship with all 4 is very unique and different.
Glad you are able to have these conversations.
Jemma

Debbie@Debbie-Dabble and A Debbie-Dabble Christmas said...

Laura,
Thanks so much for stopping by and for your kind words!!
As a Mom of 2 grown sons, It is such a thrill to see the adults that they have become and Joe and I are so happy that they turned out to be hard working, responsible and respectful adults. Motherhood does not come with an instruction book so you just have to "wing it" and hope for the best!!

Hugs,
Deb

Debbie@Debbie-Dabble and A Debbie-Dabble Christmas said...

Laura,
I also want to mention that my husband does all the laundry and the dishes ( we do not have a dishwasher) and the food shopping. He has since we were first married as both of us worked full time and opposite shifts. Both my sons are out on their own and both take care of their own apartments. My younger son lives with his girl friend and he does house work too and goes along to do the food shopping.
I wanted my son's not to be " Mama's Boys" and they definitely are not!! They are quite self sufficient!! As is my Husband!!

Hugs,
Deb