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Monday, September 12, 2011

Packing Up a Lifetime of Memories

I received a call from my brother last week. The time had come. My mother’s house needed to be cleaned out. Some of you may remember that my mom, Nadine, passed away very unexpectedly about a year and a half ago.

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My mom lived in California. A twelve hour trip from my door to hers. I have not been back to my childhood home since her passing.

To be honest I sometimes try to fool myself that she’s not really gone. I even contemplated not going and helping my siblings.

I know that denial is a part of grief. I also know that this trip will make it all too true.

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But my sister in law love talked some sense into me. (Love you M.!)  So, I packed my bags, did the laundry and stocked the pantry so that Mr. Décor and Sweet Boy can survive a week without me.

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Alas, I did not fare as well in preparing entertainment in advance for you my dear readers. BUT, there will be a linky party this Wednesday. I would love to read about what you have been busy doing. It does not have to be a “fall themed” project. Just anything you have fallen in love with.

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See you Wednesday!

Laura

31 comments :

cityfarmer said...

bless you .. this can be a daunting task

LindaSonia said...

we'll be there supporting you in spirit.

Julie Tucker-Wolek said...

My thoughts are with you while you are there... good luck with everything Laura {{{hugs}}}

Debby said...

(((((HUGS)))) for you and your family as you go through your mother's belongings. Maybe since some time has passed you will be able to share good memories as you go through things. I know it will be hard since you haven't been back. She will be there in spirit. It is so hard as our parents age. My husband and his sister just went through his mothers' things. She was moved to a small assisted living apartment in a center. It was hard doing it with their mom in attendance.
I will be thinking of you.

Vicki said...

Laura, I'll be praying for you this week. Although this is a somber time, my hope is that you and your siblings will enjoy being with each other, supporting each other, encouraging each other.

Sandy aka Doris the Great said...

This must be so difficult. But try to focus on all the beautiful memories you'll get to relive as you go through each item. God bless!

Joani said...

Thoughts & prayers are with you while you help out your siblings. Hugs.

AshTreeCottage said...

I am thinking of you. I know this task is hard for you, but it can be a healing one too.

Hugs and love,
Susan and Bentley

Ann@A Sentimental Life said...

Laura, I understand only too well what you have waiting for you. You will laugh and you will cry, but try and soak in as much of the memories as you can at your family home. We will be here waiting for you when you return.

Craftymoose Crafts said...

Having had to do this twice--once on each side of the family, I know all too well how your heart will be pulled in a million directions. Try to stay focused on the task. Big hugs.

Kelly_Deal said...

Laura, I know how you feel. My mom passed away last November and my siblings, hubby, and I have been cleaning out the house. It's a very hard thing to do.
Hugs,
Kelly

Mimi said...

Oh Laura,
I cannot even imagine doing this.....I will lean on you for comfort and support when I have to do this. MY Mom is going to be 75 soon, but her family ALL live along time...some well into their 90's. So let's Pray for the same
hugs,
jamie

Teresa said...

See you, Sweet Lady.

You need this diclosure and I'm foreseeing that it will be easier than you expected when you wrote this post.

Take Care and find solace in the memories and in those lovely people that will keep being part of your afections quilt.

Blessings sent your way,
Teresa

Deanna said...

Dearest Laura,
God bless and comfort you.

Truly,
d

GARAGE SALE GAL ~ Deb's Earthly Delights said...

I feel it will be a bittersweet time for you!
Take care.
Warmly,
deb

Terri said...

Laura,
We recently did the same thing at my mom's house and it is not an easy task. The house is completely empty now and will soon be placed on the market. I've been in a down mood ever since. It's the end of an era. The two people who found as much joy in my children's accomplishments are no longer on this earth and it makes me so sad. I miss them every single day of my life. Take care, my friend.

Amy said...

I've just finished with my mom's house (she passed in March). It was just me going through 60+ years of stuff....but it did bring back alot of memories for me. I hope it does the same for you. :)

Karena said...

Thinking of you Laura, I know this will not be easy for you! God Bless!

xoxo
Karena

Art by Karena

Red Rose Alley said...

Thinking about you, as my mom passed away almost three years ago. My family cleared things out right after, and me and my sister did some crying and some laughing embracing all the wonderful memories. So glad you decided to go. Sending love your way.
~Sheri at Red Rose Alley

Sherry @ No Minimalist Here said...

Laura, I have been in the same position you are in. Cleaning out your mother's things will not be easy but try to hold on to the good memories. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hugs,
Sherry

DREAMS ON 34th STREET ~ French Bread & Family said...

Laura,
I send the best of love to you and your family. I wish you sweet memories!
~Lynne
[w/L]

Language of Color and Texture said...

Hope you found some solace in your task. I'm thinking of you dear girl.
Hugs.

Little Leslie said...

There will be crying and laughter, both of which honor your mom. I hope you can find peace in this.
Love,
Leslie

martinealison said...

Ce sera un moment difficile, mais indispensable pour retrouver la paix...
Je vous souhaite beaucoup de courage.
Gros bisous

Karen said...

I've been in your shoes. While it is not easy to go through this, choose to use it as a time for being with siblings and family, remembering special times with items you are sorting through. My brothers and I had a very special time together. My sister chose not to participate. She really missed out. Take care. Saying some prayers for your this week.
Hugs,
Karen
Ladybug Creek

Kelley said...

Prayers for you, Laura. I've never walked the road you're on and certainly do NOT look forward to it, either. My thoughts are with you for strength and comfort.

I'll be linking Wednesday this week! Something very simple my sweetie gave me that makes me smile when I look into...

Revealing that Wednesday!

Sue said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this task. I have been there and it can be overwhelming but together as a family you can get through it.

fairfieldhousenj.com said...

Laura,

Know that I am thinking of you and praying for you. I know this will be a hard but bittersweet experience, invoking memories you cherish. I am glad you have siblings who will be helping in the process. I have to tend to this task alone.

Your Friend,
Deborah

Auntie Em said...

It is a tough job but it will have it's moments of sweet memories and laughs as well. As the only daughter it fell mostly on me to go through my mother's personal belongings and distribute them as best I could. It just seems so wrong to invade their private space but the funny little mementos I found tucked away in drawers and jewelery boxes made it a little less difficult to do. I was glad I was able to do this for her after all was said and done.
{Hugs} and warm thoughts are with you!

French Basketeer.com said...

I was thinking of you all weekend....I hope it was a healing weekend...

daysease said...

Oh, friend... My hurts to hear that you are hurting. Praying for you, with you. And sending a hug. May God bring you healing as you face the sweet memories, confront the home and belongings of your dearly loved one. May God bring peace to your heartache, and comfort in all of your missings.

Sincerely, C.