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Friday, April 9, 2010

Design School Dropout?

So the question of just how much can one person endure has come up. The overwhelming love and support shown by my friends has truly been carrying me through this past week.

Then I returned to school….

I encountered a situation that made me feel like the first image.

2677448330_04263be63b Let me start out by saying that two of my instructors ROCK! They are working with me and I am really amazed, grateful and inspired by their support and I am so encouraged to continue on and work hard for these wonderful individuals which ultimately is for myself. But…you knew it was coming…another instructor has me thinking this:

thumbnail I was welcomed back to this class with a huge stack of homework and projects and informed that I had one week to complete it all. To top it off when I raised my hand in class to express I needed additional understanding on a key point the teacher said something so incredibly mean that I had to leave class. This person crushed me to the point of dropping out. But then I thought about the tremendous amount of time and energy I have already invested in this class this semester. I also only have 4 weeks left. As I was driving home a song came on the radio.

It got me FIRED up. I feel like I am standing at the gates of Hell right now but I have decided that I won’t back down.

Because "Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned." ~William Congreve

Thank you Tom Petty.

Fighting on with your prayers,

A scorned design student

33 comments :

Kathy @ Creative Home Expressions said...

I hope you won't let one person affect your decision to continue. Can it be chalked up to a bad day for this meanie? Hang in there for 4 more weeks; I know you can do it!

Blondie's Journal said...

I am behind you 100%, Laura. Keep on fighting!

xoxo
Jane

scargosun said...

Rock on! Way to go you for sticking it out! It will all be worth it in the end. :)

Lorrie said...

You go, girl!

Some people are just plain mean. I wonder sometimes what happened to them to make them the way they are. They must be very unhappy inside.

Blessings on you Laura as you pick up life and school with the sense of emptiness and grief at the loss of your mother.

Lorrie

Connie said...

Do NOT let that jerk determine your future, chick!!! He/she isn't worth it. You can do this blindfolded I'm sure. Some people are just threatened by "genius" which you clearly are. Good luck, sugar.
:-) <---------Me smilin' at ya when you pass this course.....
xoxo,
Connie

Love the Decor! said...

Oh hun people can be so mean but hang in there. I know it's hard but it will be so worth it in the end!!
~Praying~

Ceekay- Thinkin of Home said...

don't quit! You can stand it for 4 more weeks...what goes around comes around...he will get his, one way or another!

Karen said...

Yep, you are right, Don't let ANYONE stand in your way of what you need or want to do. I bet today you are already feeling better. Have a nice weekend catching up (while thinking in your face teacher)!! Hugs

Helen said...

You've got what it takes ~~~ The Right Stuff!

Julie Tucker-Wolek said...

yes, i agree, mean people suck!!!! that is horrible U were treated that way....here is to U finishing this semester without another bump!!!! and yayyyyyyyyyyyy for tom petty! :):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):):)

Michelle "Chaos Caretaker" www.containchaos.com said...

I went back to get my masters in my thirties as a mother with a full-time job. There was one professor that left me in tears time and time again. She was abrupt, unrealistic, condescending, and at times inappropriate. In the end, she is the reason I stayed in the program. I can't explain why. Somehow I wanted to prove that I could do it in spite of her. Best of luck.

Veronica said...

Keep on fighting. I have teachers like that. You can't let them get you down.

Rabbit Hill Primitives said...

just keep swimming, just keep swimming....

Those "kind of" people are there to make us the "kind" of people we are...or hope to be :) In four weeks you will have no regrets.

Rock on Tom Petty!
xo Jenn

Bettyann said...

Oh Laura...I am sending ((((hugs))) and good thoughts to you...

Mamma hamilton said...

I agree with other comments Hon, this person is obviously really sad inside and trully isn't worth you quitting over. Hang on in there girl, you have lots of blog fans and we are all behind you 100%. Ignore the meanie and believe in yourself. Go girl! You're worth it. Hugs.

The Boston Lady said...

I guess that ivory tower tends to make some people unreasonable and rude.

Hopefully your continued presence in the class and then your stunning success will make that person wish they had been a little more compassionate. You only need to tolerate them for 4 more weeks. He/she is stuck with themselves forever.

Keep on keeping on.

ScrappinAway said...

You go get 'em!!! And show that one instructor that not only will you not back down, you will push forward, so you don't have to see him/her anymore, lol!!! Rooting for you! I know how are design school is, I have been there myself also while going through a very rough time but held on and finish. I can't tell you the relief and satisfaction I felt. You can do it!!!

Kathy's Red Door Welcome said...

That is one fabulous song to be inspired by. Keep your chin up, you are almost at the finish line!

Tales From My Empty Nest said...

My daughters have both had professors/teachers like that in the past. I guess there is at least one at every school. In each case, my girls stood up and faced these "jerks" and held their heads high. In one class my daughter got the highest grade average of the whole school and the "mean teacher" had to award Lauren with the outstanding student award. Lauren was thrilled to have proved this teacher wrong!!!! Hang in there. You can do the same thing and finish and be done with this mean teacher and move on with your schooling. I know it is hard. I am tenderhearted and I cry easily, but know that we are all rooting for you. Only 4 more weeks of school and you will be out. You have been through so much recently and I hate this had to happen to you. Love & blessings from NC!

Craftymoose Crafts said...

Please don't allow this inconsiderate (that's the nicest word I could think of)person to derail you. If they know your situation and lack that much compassion for a fellow human being, well, I really feel sorry for them.

As I've heard before...Keep calm and carry on!

Pat said...

I can't believe this happened! Very sad ~ but don't let anyone steal your joy. YOU can do this!

Shelia said...

Oh, Dear Laura! Don't quit your dream. There's always a meany around. You're very strong and I'll be praying for you.
Blessings,
Shelia ;)

Jane said...

This is not the time for you to have to deal with mean people! GRRR! That really gets me mad! I too had my boss say some really mean things to me when I returned from a personal loss and it's a terrible time to have to be strong. So much hard than when you have your full strength.

However, my mother-in-law sent me the nicest card of encouragement that her mother-in-law had sent to her some 40 years earlier. (So it was the wisdom of my DH's grandmother who I never met.) It said, "Life is wonderful if you don't weaken."

Hang in there, you have tremendous talent and lots of support from your blog friends.

GardenofDaisies said...

Just do the best you can with the homework. Only 4 more weeks! C'mon Laura! You can do this...
Remember the little train engine.....I think I can, I think I can, I think I can...

~ ~ Ahrisha ~ ~ said...

Well gal, looks like we are all rootin' for you to hang in there! You can grab the strength from within and finish these 4 weeks. I know you can.
~ ~Ahrisha~ ~

The French Bear said...

Laura, you hang in there, don't let some idiot make you back down!!! My little granddaughter stood up in church and sang that line from that song, everyone laughed but I knew she was dealing with a bully and I was proud of her. I am proud of you, don't back down!
Hugs,
Margaret B

LuLu Kellogg said...

Sounds like someone pooped in her cornflakes that morning. What a waste of hot air she must have been. Good for you that you are not giving up!

*shaking pom-poms* GO LAURA!!

LuLu♥

Alexandra Rae said...

Don't give up! I know how hard it can be when you're emotionally exhausted and someone pushes the wrong button. I went back to finish my design degree (with busy business to boot) and almost walked away at exactly this point, right before all the final projects. (I actually did have to just bow out of one class with a fail). But my dean was at least supportive. However, I now know mean people exists. I had a client that was so hideous to me the stress caused my hair to fall out. But in the end, she won. Because I let her. I let her crush me gave up, filled with hatred and didn't work on another project for a very long time. I know how hard it is to do, but shake her off and keep your eye on YOUR prize!

Joyce's Journey said...

I work in Human Resources. I have learned that we all have talents and if we do not recognize our talents and nurture them, there must be someone else to help us find our talents and nurture them. While this particular instructor probably spent much time perfecting their career, it is not their talent. It's your bump in the road. Maybe you need to delve in and work your butt off. I have faith in you.

fairfieldhousenj.com said...

Laura,

For some unexplainable reason I missed this post. I know how you feel. I have been there. Do what you need to do to get through it. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and while you're stepping over the instructor be sure smile.

Your Friend,
Deborah

LaurieAnna's Vintage Home said...

I've just found your blog....you're an inspiration! Hang in there and fight the good fight!

I love your blog and am glad I found you! LaurieAnna

Terra said...

I love this video, since the song is so bold and strong, "I won't back down".
Good for you for going on in spite of such sadness and obstacles and that mean instructor.

Terri said...

I'm leaving this late, and I apologize, but I had to leave you this bit of advice. Get the work done for the mean teacher and then scorch him on evaluations.

I recently accepted a faculty position at my alma mater and those evaluations are like glue - particularly the well-written ones. They stay in the instructors file for YEARS. I would even include the nasty comment that made you leave the room.

Your writing skills and your anger over this might combine to save another student from a similar experience down the road.