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Friday, February 13, 2009

A lesson in love and friendship

You just never know when you will meet a person who will change your life forever.

In the third grade I met T. She sat at my table in Miss Dobson's class. When we walked home together we discovered that we had become next door neighbors.

My third grade photo

By all accounts we were as opposite as two little girls could be. I was a gangly brunette who loved barbies. T was a petite blond who loved softball. But somehow we became good friends and shared many childhood rites of passage such as ...

Halloween



Christmas



Birthdays



School talent shows



Slumber parties



Bi level haircuts~also now known as "the mullet".



Drivers ed, first kisses and prom.



At times, my childhood was really rough. But T was my constant. Even when I moved away from one foster home to another, I knew I could just call T and she would arrive in her Pontiac LeMans to take me anywhere I needed to go.

After graduation I moved far away, but that didn't stop us from being there for the adult milestones.
Weddings


Children




And the big one, turning 40.



She always makes me laugh...


...even when I want to cry. The past few years have been especially tough. I had to watch as Alzheimer's stole away the Papa Jack that I knew and loved.


I became his legal guardian and when I had to move him into a locked facility T drove several hours, so I wouldn't have to do it all alone. When he passed away, she once again was at my side to help me make all the arrangements so I wouldn't be by myself. I never could have gotten through the tough moments in life without her.

How do you thank a person who is so loving, giving and selfless? A person you know you can always count on no matter what. A mere "thank you" just doesn't even begin to feel like it would be enough.
"We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over; so in a series of kindnesses there is at last, one which makes the heart run over." ~Samuel Johnson
T, my heart is not just full of love for you, it has ran over. I am so thankful for the day on which you were born. Happy Birthday dear friend.
Be blessed!

32 comments :

Mildred said...

God certainly sent an angel when he sent Tracy into your life. What a blessing to have a friend so faithful. Happy Birthday Tracy!
Happy Valentine's Day Laura!

parTea lady said...

Well, it's rare for me to be in tears before breakfast, but how could I not be after reading this? Thank you for sharing your tribute to Tracy. You are truly blessed to have such a friend.

Terri and Bob said...

Wow, that was a powerful post! I think you are both lucky to have found each other. Laura, you are a model for how one can choose their path. I am so humbled by you!

jewelstreet said...

Isn't it wonderful to have such a friend?! Happy Birthday, Tracy!

Neabear said...

What a wonderful friendship! Happy Birthday to your friend Tracy!!

Suzy said...

Wow, Isn't it nice to have such a great friend in your life for so long. I have one of those too! You are surely blessed.....
Happy Valentine's Day,
Suzy

heather said...

Oh! That is so sweet! I have a Tracy. Her name is Kemra. We've been there for each other one hundred percent. And for a long time I thought that everyone had a Kemra, but the older I get the more I realize that these kinds of friendships are rare. It makes me so grateful because I honestly don't know what I'd do without the woman!

LvPoohBr2 said...

What a treasure to have in your life! I'm so glad you had a friend to be there for you through all the rough times and to share your good times as well. How fortunate for you to still be friends after all of these years. Happy Birthday Tracy!

Anna Lindsey Sailer O'Reilly said...

I'm very happy for you both. I think that my life-long friend is my dear husband. It's such a blessing to know that no matter what happens, there is someone in this world who knows you and loves you despite the changes that life throws as you.

Lorrie said...

What a lovely tribute to a wonderful friend. You are both blessed to have each other.

Lorrie

Barb said...

I didn't know you were going to make me cry.... You certainly are blessed.

Tracy Young said...

My dear Laura. Thank you so much for dedicating your blog page to me today. That was so awesome and I feel so lucky to have such a wonderful friend. That was so touching and of course, you made me cry! But, it was a good cry. You are an amazing friend and I am truly blessed to have you in my life. Thank you to all of you that has wished me a happy birthday. I do have to say that this is one of the best birthday's ever. Thanks to all of you and my dear friend Laura. I love you dearly. Thanks again!

ScrappinAway said...

This brought tears to my eyes. I have a friend that I feel that way about and she lives almost 500 miles away and I miss her a ton!
Oh and I had a sleeping bad just like the red and white one in your pic, lol!

The Quintessential Magpie said...

What a sweet post! You repay a person who has been there for you by being there for her and loving her... just the way you do! :-)

XO,

Sheila

Sue said...

A wonderful loving testament to your friend. Everyone needs a good friend like you have and I am also blessed to have one named Deana. We have been friends for 42yr and counting. I can't imagine going through some of the things in the past without her. Here is a quote that I found a few years ago that I think sums up friendship like this. "Good friends are God's way of apologizing for families" Have a wonderful day and Happy Birthday Tracy.
Sue

vintagewindow said...

Happy Birthday to Tracy. You are blessed to have such a person in your life. I'm sure if we asked Tracy, she would say she is blessed to have you in her life.

Happy Friday

Kris

Shimmy Mom said...

Oh how sweet. I hope your wonderful friend has a great birthday.
Have a great weekend!
*hugs*

Linda said...

How sweet you are to post this beautiful message for your friend.
You are both blessed to have each other. Happy birthday Tracy!

Sara's Sweet Surprise said...

My friend Robin....she's been with me since the the tender age of nine.
Shes in sunny Cal. I'm in the rainy northwest. We can talk on the phone for hours about The MONKEES and our then crush for Davy Jones.

I think I'll give her a call.
I hope you're friend has a VERY Happy Birthday!!!!

Sweet wishes,
Sara

sweet momma luv u said...

I am so glad thot you have that friend that you can always count on!! It is so nice to know when you find that one person that is your BFF!! Happy Valentine's Day!!

~♥~ Monica S said...

Oh Laura.. this made med cry... Beautiful! I am glad you have a friend like that! Take good care of her!

Monica

Rengin Yazitas said...

Laura, I couldn't control my tear drops...Thanks for sharing your tribute to Tracy. Wishing Happy Birthday to Tracy. You're blessed for having a real friend.But, I think she is also blessed for having a friend like you:)
Rengin, in Istanbul

Coastal Sisters said...

My eyes just filled with tears over this touching post. What a treasure Tracy is to you as I am sure you are a treasure to her.

Happy Monday Sweet Laura,
LuLu~*xoxo

Christy Wong said...

That was beautiful. What a special friend! Thanks for sharing. Your friend is lucky to have you.

Kathy's Red Door Welcome said...

This blog really struck a cord with me because I lost my mother almost two years ago. She had dymentia and I had to make all the hard decisions including finding a lock down facility. My dear friend Sybil, who I met when I was fifteen, was totally there for me,plus she shared a history with me that no one else could. My only sister passed away when she was twenty eight, 31 years ago Feb.19th. My dear friend Sybil knew my mother and sister well and is one of the only people I could express my grief to that really understood.
I think of Sybil as my angel too.
I'm so touched to hear of your long time friendship and how it was a comfort to you to have her.My friends birthday was Feb.11 and after reading your blog I wish I had thougtht to thank my friend with my blog. Thanks for sharing!

Lori said...

What a sweet, loving tribute to a good friend. I'm having fun getting to know you via your blog, thanks for stopping by mine! And happy birthday to Tracy!!

Rue said...

Laura.... that was one of the most beautiful tributes to friendship that I have ever read.

Happy belated Birthday Tracy!

rue

Sarah said...

What a precious friend you were blessed with for so long in your life! Thank you for sharing! That is just how beautiful God works in our lives!
Thank you for visiting my blog too! I appreciate the comments so much! :)
So I am curious, are you actually related to Laura Ingalls then? How awesome! I am a homeschooler and we are currently about to read through Little House on the Prairie as the kids love the dvds from the library! :)

Maija said...

What a blessing TRacy is!

Superjaxster said...

That is such a beautiful story. You certainly are blessed to have such a wonderful friend in your life. Thanks for sharing this!

Her Shabbiness said...

Beautiful post. What a blessing it is to have such a fantastic friend!

Jenn said...

that's really amazing...that doesn't happen very often in this life. you are truly blessed! your tribute to her brought tears to my eyes! thanks for sharing...